To answer the original users question here is what i did on my XP to get it to work.
)pen up Windows Media player (needs to be the Version 11)
Now plugin your phone, and when you do it will make 3 short beeps, and you will see a driver installer window open up and a second window that says "Windows Media Player - Device Setup"
Ignore the first window and pay attention to the Device Setup window.
Name your phone if you want, and then click Finish. This will start an auto sync of your device and your library.
Now go back to the other window where its looking for drivers for the ROm-820|Nokia Lumia 920
Click Install automatically and then click Next. you will see the yellow ? mark and the hour glass and be told "Windows can not install this Hardware" Thats ok, just click finish.
Now click on "Start" and then "My computer" this should now be showing you all of your Connected Items. Look for the "OTHER" category and you should see the windows phone listed under the name you provided above.
Clicking on it, will display all of its folders, including the Music, Ringtones, Documents, Pictures, and Videos.
As a side note:
I would like to point out something to you windows fanboys who jump ship every time windows farts a new version.
XP is stable. its consistent. most of hits bugs are worked out. (most not all)
I have yet to visit another company whos primary os is not windows XP.
Why is xp the primary? bc its works.
Along time ago a saying went "if it aint broke dont fix it"
I have 3 pc's at home, one running xp, my wife's on 8, and my third is running 7. the xp is used the most. why? its easy to use, configure, and we already know most of the tips and tricks to do what we need / want to do. alot of things changed that made upgrading a nightmare. 1 reason? ok lets start with the UAC.. now, i have learned recently the ways around this red headed step child, but for the average user, having windows ask you as an administrator 5 times ARE YOU SURE? is retarded. user error? yes, but due to an over complex system? yes.