1. N_LaRUE's Avatar
    well she said why I ask why her ex abused her and I said " no I don't ask why about that we all know he verbally abused you and manipulated you. " I was thinking about " why didn't my ex tell me " implying I still think to why she left me like that . I then said " rue said something as to why but didn't fit " implying that I didn't think it fit and was why she acted the way she did ." then I said I know its a bad habit to always ask why when most of the questions that are asked some don't have an answer .
    That was still hard to follow.

    If I remember correctly. You're referring to why your ex left? You said something along the lines that you wish that she would tell you 'why' but she never did. Just broke up with you? I implied that is was probably due her being immature and not wanting to 'hurt your feelings'. Even though that's what happens. So you're left wondering why and you can't get an answer. So it messes with you. That's why MIA, myself and others have all said the same thing. If you don't know the answer, there's no point in wondering about it. Just move on. It's healthier. Wondering is just blocking yourself from happiness and all it does is upset you more. It's part of growing up. Sometimes you'll never know why and you just need to realise that.

    As for Nadia's situation. It's completely different. It's a psychological minefield. You have verbal, mental and physical abuse. Usually resulting in the one who is abused feeling guilty all the time. That they did something wrong. That they're the reasons things went wrong. Even now you can see she still struggles a bit with the power he had over her. That's what abusive relationships are like. There's that constant tug of 'maybe I'm seeing things wrong'. That's what abusers do to their victims, they mess them up mentally.

    Be happy that your situation was a lot nicer. Regardless how you feel about it. There's always worse. Much worse.
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    04-28-2014 10:52 AM
  2. hope4wp's Avatar
    I like to them I am too. i remember one that that my female friend was scared that she was prego with another guy and was talk talking to me about it. she didn't want to go get teasted since she was scared so then i took it upon myself and went around to ask and essentially act like if i was the one that was about to get her prego. she took the test because i told her what i did and she was not prego . :P
    Um
    04-28-2014 10:56 AM
  3. N_LaRUE's Avatar
    Um
    Yeah I didn't understand that either.
    04-28-2014 11:00 AM
  4. sahib lopez's Avatar
    That was still hard to follow.

    If I remember correctly. You're referring to why your ex left? You said something along the lines that you wish that she would tell you 'why' but she never did. Just broke up with you? I implied that is was probably due her being immature and not wanting to 'hurt your feelings'. Even though that's what happens. So you're left wondering why and you can't get an answer. So it messes with you. That's why MIA, myself and others have all said the same thing. If you don't know the answer, there's no point in wondering about it. Just move on. It's healthier. Wondering is just blocking yourself from happiness and all it does is upset you more. It's part of growing up. Sometimes you'll never know why and you just need to realise that.

    As for Nadia's situation. It's completely different. It's a psychological minefield. You have verbal, mental and physical abuse. Usually resulting in the one who is abused feeling guilty all the time. That they did something wrong. That they're the reasons things went wrong. Even now you can see she still struggles a bit with the power he had over her. That's what abusive relationships are like. There's that constant tug of 'maybe I'm seeing things wrong'. That's what abusers do to their victims, they mess them up mentally.

    Be happy that your situation was a lot nicer. Regardless how you feel about it. There's always worse. Much worse.
    1) i know its better not to ask why since i wont know why. it takes a while for me to get over things. i calculated that it takes me around one year to get over things and so far its slowly fading.
    2) i know nadia is still facing that and im not saying its her fault. nothing was. i still feel bad for her since mine was more easier than hers and i cant do anything to ereas that
    04-28-2014 11:01 AM
  5. sahib lopez's Avatar
    sometimes i do think why i say anything ;P I should go back an be quiet since i don't make a lot of sense >.<
    04-28-2014 11:03 AM
  6. kmji1957's Avatar
    Or maybe you should think before say anything!
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    04-28-2014 11:09 AM
  7. N_LaRUE's Avatar
    1) i know its better not to ask why since i wont know why. it takes a while for me to get over things. i calculated that it takes me around one year to get over things and so far its slowly fading.


    2) i know nadia is still facing that and im not saying its her fault. nothing was. i still feel bad for her since mine was more easier than hers and i cant do anything to ereas that


    I'm starting to think you have a bit of a reading comprehension, either that or you read things too quickly.

    Nowhere did I say that you blamed Nadia for anything. I didn't even bring you into her situation. I was pointing out the difference in the two situations.

    As for your situation I would have been over it in a couple of weeks.
    04-28-2014 11:09 AM
  8. sahib lopez's Avatar
    Or maybe you should think before say anything!
    i do think though >.< i think a lot and i over think things :/
    04-28-2014 11:10 AM
  9. hope4wp's Avatar
    Or maybe you should think before say anything!
    Hi 🙋 km.... How are you?
    04-28-2014 11:11 AM
  10. sahib lopez's Avatar
    I'm starting to think you have a bit of a reading comprehension, either that or you read things too quickly.

    Nowhere did I say that you blamed Nadia for anything. I didn't even bring you into her situation. I was pointing out the difference in the two situations.

    As for your situation I would have been over it in a couple of weeks.
    i think its that i read to quickly :P and i have a lot more to grow up to get over things :/
    04-28-2014 11:11 AM
  11. N_LaRUE's Avatar
    i do think though >.< i think a lot and i over think things :/



    Just because you think doesn't mean comprehension.
    04-28-2014 11:11 AM
  12. kmji1957's Avatar
    Or maybe you should think before say anything!
    I had to say this even though I decided to leave this thread.
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    04-28-2014 11:13 AM
  13. N_LaRUE's Avatar
    i think its that i read to quickly :P and i have a lot more to grow up to get over things :/

    Well that explains alot.
    04-28-2014 11:13 AM
  14. sahib lopez's Avatar
    Just because you think doesn't mean comprehension.
    yeah that's better which makes me always ask why to understand
    04-28-2014 11:13 AM
  15. sahib lopez's Avatar
    I had to say this even though I decided to leave this thread.
    o.o you were only here for a while :(
    04-28-2014 11:14 AM
  16. hope4wp's Avatar
    I had to say this even though I decided to leave this thread.
    You're leaving? But why? :(
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    04-28-2014 11:14 AM
  17. sahib lopez's Avatar
    Well that explains alot.
    what does? that i know i know to grow up more :P?
    04-28-2014 11:14 AM
  18. N_LaRUE's Avatar
    I had to say this even though I decided to leave this thread.

    Your input is always welcome. :)
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    04-28-2014 11:14 AM
  19. hope4wp's Avatar
    My phones gonna switch off
    04-28-2014 11:15 AM
  20. N_LaRUE's Avatar
    what does? that i know i know to grow up more :P?

    Both points you made.
    04-28-2014 11:16 AM
  21. sahib lopez's Avatar
    Both points you made.
    i tend to skim that i got into which is a bad habit :/
    04-28-2014 11:17 AM
  22. hope4wp's Avatar
    3% .
    04-28-2014 11:17 AM
  23. N_LaRUE's Avatar
    My phones gonna switch off


    Use another one :P
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    04-28-2014 11:18 AM
  24. hope4wp's Avatar
    Never mind :p
    04-28-2014 11:21 AM
  25. sahib lopez's Avatar
    I think im going to be quiet more since im best of observing :P
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    04-28-2014 11:21 AM
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