Hi,
Did this privacy mode issue get resolved. I have a 2010 ford escape and a nokia 920 with the same problem.
No, it hasn't. I'm dealing with it on a new 2014 Ford Mustang. So far it seems that the first outgoing call I make after connecting the phone to SYNC will default to Privacy Mode. I'm not yet ready to label this as a definite WP8 issue, though. I've now had the same Lumia 920 handset paired with multiple vehicles with SYNC in the past few months:
2012 Ford Expedition SYNC w/ MyFord Touch
2013 Ford Flex SYNC w/ MyFord Touch
2013 Ford Explorer SYNC w/ MyFord Touch
2014 Ford Mustang SYNC (no MyFord Touch)
On every unit previous to this one not only did I never get the Privacy mode issue, but the connections were almost seamless. I'd be listening to music (or on a call) before getting in and the moment the car was up and running it would transfer over to SYNC flawlessly. Artist/Song text would be displayed on the screen, and I rarely if ever had any kind of crash issues. On the 2014 Mustang, I very frequently get the Privacy mode issue which makes "hands free" calling an impossibility. It seems to take much longer (10-15 seconds) sometimes to connect via Bluetooth whereas on previous versions it was almost instant (maybe 3-5 seconds). And whenever I get into the car I have to force SYNC to select Bluetooth Audio whereas in the previous versions it was automatic.
I've received some conflicting responses from Ford support on this, and while I've been happy with how my dealer has responded to the concerns I'm not exactly happy with a solution of "leave the car with them for a few days" just to figure out what is going on. Next on my list to check is to try using other non-WP8 devices to see if I can pin anything down. But since I've heard reports of these things happening on WP8 and non-WP8 phones, on some versions of SYNC but not others, there just seem to be too many variables and I don't get the sense that Microsoft really cares about the issue.