I have large hands, as well, but a phone spends MOST of its time being carried in a pocket, not in my hands.
I don't want to carry half-a-brick in my pocket, or have my smartphone bulging out like a giant polymer tumor from my jeans, Lumia 900-style.
Again you're enytitled to your opinion. My hands are not big and they are not small. I like a larger screen and quite frankly although my 900 is heavier It not as heavy as I thought it was going to be and having previously used a focus dont notice that much of difference between the two. My phone before that was a tilt 2 and it was heavier feeling than the focus. The size difference to me right now beytween the 8x and the 920 is quite minimal. I would favor the 920 because of the 32 GB option an my like of the n900 form factor and nokia's commitment to product and software for their line. I'll check out the 8x and 920 and ativs at ATT and make a decision for me and which one I like best not based on weight or waht "everybody" thinks or likes. My two cents.