libra89
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Re: WC 150K Post Challenge - You Ready?!
I agree and I disagree with you on this, even though I think it's person and/or lifestyle dependent. I agree because of how two of my friends met their partners.
One of my friends is a guy who only believes in the in-person connection, and he met his now fiancee at a conference they were both going to. The other one whose wedding I went to, they met in post grad education. They had a mutual friend and he asked her out, and here we are.
So I believe this can be true and I have seen it in my two friends. However, it isn't likely for everyone, hence my disagreement. Since I gave two for the agree, I'll give two for the disagree. Just to make it even haha. My friend's girlfriend is pretty cool. There's no way they would have met without the app. She is a PhD student who has long lab days. They both work in the city (DC, I mean) but thousands of people do.
The other girl is not a friend but I met her before. She and her now fiance went to the same lounges occasionally but never saw each other there. One day, she decided to try out an app just because and they matched. After talking, they realized that they frequent the same places, just never at the same time.
As for myself and my life, it's not as likely. I hang out with the same group of friends, and no, I never considered dating any of the guys. There was a time period when people tried to put stuff in my head about some of them that isn't true when it comes to feelings. As for the work point, I don't believe in it for myself. I like my job and I wouldn't want to have to change that until I want to. Besides, most people at work are much older and/or are married.
I don't drink so I wouldn't ever be at a bar. While everyone has particular things they are looking for and is important to them, I have particular unique things that aren't a common pairing together and with an app, they can know upfront and then we go from there.
Meeting someone 'organically' has a high possibility of disappointment. Many times (I don't know what it is about how I appear), I have had people expect for me to have opinions that I don't agree with. If I was an average girl (There is no average person but there are regular expectations, which are not mine), sure, but I'm not. I don't feel comfortable sharing the 3 things publicly (but if you (general you) wish to know, message me) but I have mentioned the 2 big things all the time here.
As for meeting people in my program, I'm not opposed to it, but so far, most are married or much older than me. Also, I'm quiet and observant, people don't really notice quiet people, unless they want to.
I wrote an essay basically (sorry all but thanks for reading if you did make it here lol) but the tl;dr version is that it isn't as likely for me to meet someone (who could actually work out long-term, which is what I'm seeking) without the apps because of my lifestyle and my particular unique things that I cannot compromise on.
I did say that this would be long... (and it is lol)
I agree and I disagree with you on this, even though I think it's person and/or lifestyle dependent. I agree because of how two of my friends met their partners.
One of my friends is a guy who only believes in the in-person connection, and he met his now fiancee at a conference they were both going to. The other one whose wedding I went to, they met in post grad education. They had a mutual friend and he asked her out, and here we are.
So I believe this can be true and I have seen it in my two friends. However, it isn't likely for everyone, hence my disagreement. Since I gave two for the agree, I'll give two for the disagree. Just to make it even haha. My friend's girlfriend is pretty cool. There's no way they would have met without the app. She is a PhD student who has long lab days. They both work in the city (DC, I mean) but thousands of people do.
The other girl is not a friend but I met her before. She and her now fiance went to the same lounges occasionally but never saw each other there. One day, she decided to try out an app just because and they matched. After talking, they realized that they frequent the same places, just never at the same time.
As for myself and my life, it's not as likely. I hang out with the same group of friends, and no, I never considered dating any of the guys. There was a time period when people tried to put stuff in my head about some of them that isn't true when it comes to feelings. As for the work point, I don't believe in it for myself. I like my job and I wouldn't want to have to change that until I want to. Besides, most people at work are much older and/or are married.
I don't drink so I wouldn't ever be at a bar. While everyone has particular things they are looking for and is important to them, I have particular unique things that aren't a common pairing together and with an app, they can know upfront and then we go from there.
Meeting someone 'organically' has a high possibility of disappointment. Many times (I don't know what it is about how I appear), I have had people expect for me to have opinions that I don't agree with. If I was an average girl (There is no average person but there are regular expectations, which are not mine), sure, but I'm not. I don't feel comfortable sharing the 3 things publicly (but if you (general you) wish to know, message me) but I have mentioned the 2 big things all the time here.
As for meeting people in my program, I'm not opposed to it, but so far, most are married or much older than me. Also, I'm quiet and observant, people don't really notice quiet people, unless they want to.
I wrote an essay basically (sorry all but thanks for reading if you did make it here lol) but the tl;dr version is that it isn't as likely for me to meet someone (who could actually work out long-term, which is what I'm seeking) without the apps because of my lifestyle and my particular unique things that I cannot compromise on.
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