I'll try to explain my frustration if you'll listen. I'm actually a patient guy who is willing to wait for a phone that I believe is worth having. Case and point: I've been using the HTC Trophy since launch day.
My frustration and anger has much less to do with the Nokia Lumia 929 and much more to do with Verizon's device release policy and process. You summed the policy and process in your post here: "Don't believe the hype, the phone isn't coming out until you hear a word from VZ, that's if you hear a word from VZ. Look at how they released the HTC One Max, no preorders or announcements. That's how VZ roles."
http://forums.windowscentral.com/nokia-lumia-929/250976-still-waiting-929-now-what.html#post2230868
Smartphones are devices that are expensive, personal, and for some people - purely contractual. As a smart phone provider and carrier, it is inconsiderate, rude, and poor business practice to keep your customers in the dark on the availability of a significantly upgraded device until right before releasing the device. It is, however, their right to do so because that's how carriers work in the U.S. That doesn't mean I can't be frustrated and agitated about it.
I'll give you a personal example. My beloved HTC Trophy has served me well. Verizon's network has served me well while I use it. But it is over 30 months old, and it has started to show its age. It's slowing a bit, it will lag and freeze occasionally, and obviously the 3g network is not anywhere close to 4g in terms of speed. I'm a plastic salesman, I will sometimes have phone conversations in which several million dollars worth of assets are transacted. I need a reliable phone. I cannot be waiting aimlessly for Verizon to willy-nilly release the upgrade for my device. And i'm not about to buy a 928 when the 929 could be released tomorrow. This is just my personal example, I'm sure i'm not alone in this.
Dear Verizon,
If the Nokia Lumia 929 is never going to come to fruition, say so. If you're launching the device this month, say so. If you're launching it this year, say so. If you're launching in early 2014, say so. Bottom line: Communicate with your customers.