WC 1M Post Challenge - You Ready?!

[libra89]

https://youtu.be/YusmJxdCkqI

Ooh, this was a very interesting discussion. I feel for the guys who were open and then it was thrown back at them. That's messed up. I can't imagine doing that to a man (or anyone really). Like one of the women said, I can understand why a woman would do that, as a general thing. I never really thought about the fact that a man might feel like a woman can see vulnerability as expected on a wedding day or as a reward (because "oh he showed me that, I must be special"). That statement has me thinking that I should check myself to see if I do that and if I have done that in the past.

Side note, I watch Shan (most of her videos, not all) and I also appreciated her viewpoint with the two guys whose channel this is.

Thank you for sharing this, it's food for thought.

 

[MSFTisMIA]

It is interesting how society type casts certain things each gender is supposed to do...

 

[Laura Knotek]

It is interesting how society type casts certain things each gender is supposed to do...

It's more sad than interesting to me.

 

[libra89]

It is interesting how society type casts certain things each gender is supposed to do...

Yeah I agree, it is. This video has me thinking that more people should be honest with themselves and decide what their middle ground should be in and out of relationships and what they expect of it.

Like there's a good number of things that I'm okay with being supposed/expected to do, but at the same time, there are things I just don't. As for vulnerability, it's about timing. Early on, I don't know how I would feel about that unless it makes sense for the conversation and where it's going or where it went.

Edit: the analogy he used for emotions/vulnerability from men being held versus how it is for women is powerful. Never seen it that way before. Whoa.

 

[MSFTisMIA]

Yeah I agree, it is. This video has me thinking that more people should be honest with themselves and decide what their middle ground should be in and out of relationships and what they expect of it.

Like there's a good number of things that I'm okay with being supposed/expected to do, but at the same time, there are things I just don't. As for vulnerability, it's about timing. Early on, I don't know how I would feel about that unless it makes sense for the conversation and where it's going or where it went.

Edit: the analogy he used for emotions/vulnerability from men being held versus how it is for women is powerful. Never seen it that way before. Whoa.

Some of us were taught how to start to advocate for what we want in a relationship from the other person and ourselves in order to find that middle ground...some of us have only seen someone else's version of "balance" and have taken it in fully...tricky business, navigating these things can be...

 

[MSFTisMIA]

Everyone has to hustle, I guess...

https://www.zdnet.com/google-amp/ar...ld-me-the-google-pixel-4-is-for-angry-people/

 

[libra89]

Some of us were taught how to start to advocate for what we want in a relationship from the other person and ourselves in order to find that middle ground...some of us have only seen someone else's version of "balance" and have taken it in fully...tricky business, navigating these things can be...

This is very true. It is tricky.

I couldn't do my parents idea of balance, it would be terrible for me and my wellbeing. There are things that work for them (and maybe myself) and other things that can stay with them in their relationship lol.

 

[libra89]

Everyone has to hustle, I guess...

https://www.zdnet.com/google-amp/ar...ld-me-the-google-pixel-4-is-for-angry-people/

Wow. I really don't know what to say.

 

[Laura Knotek]

Everyone has to hustle, I guess...

https://www.zdnet.com/google-amp/ar...ld-me-the-google-pixel-4-is-for-angry-people/

It sounds like that salesman dislikes losing free photo storage, isn't fond of no wide-angle camera, and is sceptical about the battery life. That sounds like why he feels that Samsung is a better option for now.

 

[Laura Knotek]

Another update regarding my S10+: I'm using the stock Samsung keyboard, rather than Gboard, and I really don't notice any difference.

 

[N_LaRUE]

https://youtu.be/YusmJxdCkqI

Interesting video.

There's various things around this that come into play of course. Some of it is based on cultural and societal norms.

There's personal expectation, personal experience, etc.

Truth is however, the strong silent man idea is damaging in my view. It's becoming more and more obvious that men and women both are emotional beings and need an outlet. As pointed out they tend to be different but I think that's more back to the conditioning of what is expected of men and women. How much of this is genetic and how much is biology? (nature vs nurture)

I've seen some interesting studies around both ideas. One interesting study showed that parents typically treat boys and girls differently in early development. Boys were encouraged to be brave, strong and rough, etc. Girls were treated more delicately and cautious, etc. Even though both boys and girls typically have the same strength and abilities at this stage. It's really the parents perception which is imprinted on them.

I think especially around younger generations is where this tends to be messy. As you get older you feel a bit more free and secure. I guess being in a long term relationship makes things a bit more different as well but I think at my age (and I know I'm not the oldest one here) I wouldn't feel at odds with expressing feelings. I don't feel a need to hide them. If a person doesn't like that then they are not someone I wish to be around.

As for dating. I was never really good at it. If I had to start doing it again I may be better as I'm a lot more comfortable with who I am but I prefer not to find out.

 

[MSFTisMIA]

Interesting video.

There's various things around this that come into play of course. Some of it is based on cultural and societal norms.

There's personal expectation, personal experience, etc.

Truth is however, the strong silent man idea is damaging in my view. It's becoming more and more obvious that men and women both are emotional beings and need an outlet. As pointed out they tend to be different but I think that's more back to the conditioning of what is expected of men and women. How much of this is genetic and how much is biology? (nature vs nurture)

I've seen some interesting studies around both ideas. One interesting study showed though that parents typically treat boys and girls differently in early development. Boys were encouraged to be brave, strong and rough, etc. Girls were treated more delicately and cautious, etc. Even though both boys and girls typically have the same strength and abilities at this stage. It's really the parents perception which is imprinted on them.

I think especially around younger generations is where this tends to be messy. As you get older you feel a bit more free and secure. I guess being in a long term relationship makes things a bit more different as well but I think at my age (and I know I'm not the oldest one here) I wouldn't feel at odds with expressing feelings. I don't feel a need to hide them. If a person doesn't like that then they are not someone I wish to be around.

As for dating. I was never really good at it. If I had to start doing it again I may be better as I'm a lot more comfortable with who I am but I prefer not to find out.

When it comes to body image, boys are trained to view their bodies as action instruments, girls are trained to view their bodies as decorative instruments...

 

[MSFTisMIA]

It sounds like that salesman dislikes losing free photo storage, isn't fond of no wide-angle camera, and is sceptical about the battery life. That sounds like why he feels that Samsung is a better option for now.

It's just so interesting how some sales people's own personal experience shape how they pitch customers. I'm sure that some of these contracts are written OEMs are paying for certain real estate in stores and such.

Its why I'm glad I don't do sales and why I'm an retired enthusiast.

 

[N_LaRUE]

It's just so interesting how some sales people's own personal experience shape how they pitch customers. I'm sure that some of these contracts are written OEMs are paying for certain real estate in stores and such.

Its why I'm glad I don't do sales and why I'm an retired enthusiast.

I ran into something similar when my wife was trying to see the Xperia 5 at a shop. This sales guy was flogging the Huawei phones, didn't look like he was specific to that brand, and nothing else was as good. I have nothing against Huawei but at this moment in time I wouldn't buy one.

 

[N_LaRUE]

When it comes to body image, boys are trained to view their bodies as action instruments, girls are trained to view their bodies as decorative instruments...

Yes, in our particular set of cultural and societal norms. It's unfortunate as well.

Currently in brain science they are finding little difference between male and female brains. Which I find rather interesting and brings about this whole idea of nature vs nurture.

 

[libra89]

Another update regarding my S10+: I'm using the stock Samsung keyboard, rather than Gboard, and I really don't notice any difference.

Nice! I use it because it works best with the night mode. Gboard had this quirky issue with changing colors on me.

 

[MSFTisMIA]

Yes, in our particular set of cultural and societal norms. It's unfortunate as well.

Currently in brain science they are finding little difference between male and female brains. Which I find rather interesting and brings about this whole idea of nature vs nurture.

I personally never thought that there was any differences between male and female brains. As you know very well, a lot of things people hold onto as "fact" ain't always the case.

 

[N_LaRUE]

I personally never thought that there was any differences between male and female brains. As you know very well, a lot of things people hold onto as "fact" ain't always the case.

To some (even in science) it would have appeared 'obvious' that there would be a difference but they haven't found anything distinct yet other than minute differences in size.

Brain science is still in it's infancy but has come a long way. Unfortunately bias is there.

 

[MSFTisMIA]

I ran into something similar when my wife was trying to see the Xperia 5 at a shop. This sales guy was flogging the Huawei phones, didn't look like he was specific to that brand, and nothing else was as good. I have nothing against Huawei but at this moment in time I wouldn't buy one.

The truth is that all modern smartphones do the basic well. I can argue that since 2016 most high end flagship cover the basics really well (this started from the Moto X days in 2013). So it's whatever "hype feature" OEMs are using to sell products is what gets pushed in stores. The biggest issue I have is that many OEMs on the Android side have been so slow to come around to the idea of proper software support post sales. We are still in this features vs stock debate that doesn't make sense.

 

[MSFTisMIA]

I would be interested in a smart watch that isn't a fitness tracker and looks nice enough to wear when I'm not at the gym. That's why Fitbit never interested me, since it's too sporty. I'm also uninterested in Apple Watch, since I'm an Android user, not an iPhone user. I hope Google introduces something new that isn't too sporty. However, I might look into Samsung smart watches.

Active 2 large, active 2 small and galaxy watch 42mm, in order. If one wants a bit more weight, I can see how the active 2 stainless steel makes sense. Still, if I didn't like heft and the rotating bezel, I would own the black aluminum active 2 large and add a black leather band (like the two I have), a tan leather band, two nylon colored workout bands, a black steel band with gold trim and a black resin band for something different. I believe it supports standard Qi wireless now for additional convenience.

The active 2 feels really, really light. I wouldn't touch the active 2 small at all, unless someone needs the ECG and just get the active one instead which looks just like the active 2 small. The digital rotating bezel is OK. I love how light it feels, how discreet it looks, and the Qi wireless charging.

As impressed as I am with the active 2's wrist feel, I wouldn't get one to replace anything I have. But I'd recommend it to someone getting a new watch for sure that doesn't like heft on their wrists.